Do you feel like you are living your best life? It is a challenge many of us face every day. We feel like there is something we can do to make our lives better. What could it be? In my own search for creating my best life, I found quite a few great ideas to help move me in the right direction. I hope you’ll find this life list guide helpful in your own goal setting. Let’s live happier and healthier together.
10 Expert Tips to Help You Create Your Best Life
Stop, Savor and Smell the Roses
Best selling author and educator, Caroline Adams Miller suggests that folks who are happier tend to savor their experiences. They are living life in the moment. She says:
When we truly savor something, like a fine wine or a well-cooked meal, we consciously take in our surroundings and experience our emotions with a powerful sense of appreciation for what is happening in that moment. Savoring also includes the capacity to plan or look forward to something—like a vacation—and enjoy the very thought of the upcoming event. It also includes the ability to look backward and reminisce about what we’ve already done, and take joy from those memories.
One of my all time favorite authors is Deepak Chopra. His books have been very inspirational in my life. He uses positive psychology to help you always focus on what is good in your life. One of his tips for living your best life is to set your intentions.
Setting intentions with the mantra, “I am living my best life,” for example, will help form a clearer path for you to know what you need to accomplish. Setting an intention, or multiple intentions, on a monthly, weekly, or even daily basis, will help you to feel like you are living your life with purpose and will help you measure your success.
An easy way to set you intentions is by writing them down. Some people do this daily, but it is fine to do this weekly or even monthly. An example might be, “I intend to practice yoga two times a week.” This will help you have a clearer vision of what you want from life. The important part is taking it one step at a time. Setting attainable intentions will help you not feel overwhelmed.
Prioritize Your Relationships
According to the Journal of Health and Social Behavior social relationships have a strong influence on your physical and mental health. When you feel supported and loved, your stress levels go down. Positive relationships even affect your immune system and cardiovascular functions. This is probably because people who really care for your encourage you to do heathy activities and eat right. Distance yourself from any negative people in your life. Your mind and body will thank you for it.
Forgive and Move On
According to the American Psychology Association, forgiving those who have wronged you helps lower levels of depression, anxiety and other mental health disorders.
When people are able to feel empathy, compassion and understanding toward others who have harmed them, they are letting go of toxic anger. They suggest tactics like you like journaling with empathy about these people as well as praying for them if you are religious.
For a number of years. I was very hurt by a friend who disappeared from my life with no explanation. I held onto this pain far too long. When I finally let go and forgave her, it helped me tremeandously.
It’s also extremely important to learn to forgive yourself. When you have a bad day, miss a deadline, whatever it may be. Forgive yourself and move on.
Live with Humility and Gratitude
The folks at Psych Central say “When you live with humility, you begin to recognize that every morning, you’re given a new chance to make the most out of your life, simply by waking up!”
Start with the basics. Your body only needs to eat, drink, sleep, work and play to live in this world. Be grateful for even the smallest things. I good meal, a peaceful night’s sleep. See that each thing that helps you keep on living is a tiny miracle.
Make it a habit to say thank you whether it’s to yourself of to others. Some people keep gratitude journals where you can write a few things you are grateful for each night. It doesn’t need to be formal. Even in the moment, you can be thankful with your inner voice. When you live this way, you’ll have more humility about the things that go beyond your basic needs.
Do Hard Things
This is more advice from Caroline Miller. It’s hard to go outside of our comfort zones, but did you know that research suggests that it’s healthy to reach for life-changing goals? According to the University of San Francisco, research found that many of us are proudest of things we achieved that we didn’t want to do or didn’t think we could do in the first place. Overcoming challenges gives us the biggest boost in self-esteem. So do something that maybe scares you a bit.
Have a vision of your future
To live your ultimate life, you need to have a clear vison for yourself. This is one that I am still working on. Every year, I tell myself I am going to create a vision board. Well, 2020 is that year for me. In December, I will create my vision for 2020. Research suggests that if you can envision exactly what you want, your path to success comes into focus.
Bola Sakunbi, creator of Clever Girl Finance has some great advise for creating your vision statement.
To create a vision, begin by identifying your core values, your passions, what you believe to be your purpose, and how you envision your life. From there, be more specific and remember to be clear. Your vision should embody your values and your view of the future without being too generic. Your vision can also change over time. The point is to have one so you know why you’re doing what you do, and you’re happier doing it. The same process applies when you’re creating a vision for any other aspect of your life, such as your career or business.
Set achievable goals
After you figure out your vision for your future, you need to set goals along the way. Your vision is your “why” and your goals are your “how.” There are many theories on setting goals. I think the best approach is to create goals that are attainable and have a deadline. For example, I wanted to start a new side business. I gave myself a deadline of October. I have already created my website and will be attending a local small business owners meeting. This small goal moves me toward a vision of helping others.
Get an Accountability Partner
According to Psychology Today, you are more likely to succeed when someone is there to hold you accountable to your goals. Top athletes have coaches, high level executives have mentors. You should not consider yourself any different. We all need to find someone to hold us accountable. Someone who can hold you to goals and not accept excuses. Having accountability helps you reach your higher potential. It may be uncomfortable if your mentor calls you out for messing up, but they will also be there to congratulate and share in your happiness when you succeed.
Spend more time outside
When you get outside, even for a short walk in the sunshine, your mind is boosted with creativity. Walking can also help your mind solve problems that you may be stuck on sitting at your desk. Did you know that famous creators like Thomas Edison, Charles Dickens and Charles Darwin spent most of their time out in nature? They spent time walking and thinking and were rarely found sitting at a desk.
What things are you working on to create your best life?
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